It's a week now since I received the sad news that my last surviving uncle had just died.
To be honest it wasn't a total surprise. We had seen him at my aunt's 90th , (she was his sister, not his wife. His wife died some years ago and I wrote about that and how deeply it affected me here ) and he looked very frail then. He had been slowly losing his sight over many years and two years ago was registered as blind. He coped with that with his usual determination to make the best of things, greatly helped by his love of music, but over the last couple of years his hearing had started to go too, so that even that consolation was gradually being closed to him.
He was 92, which people generally refer to as a good innings; his side of my family certainly seem to have a gene forlong life. And it had been a largely happy life; a strong marriage, three sons and a multitude of interests. always curious about new things and ready to try them. I remember he was the first person I ever knew, when I was quite young, to have a cine camera. One of my favourite photographs of him is at my sisters first wedding, where he is standing in the grounds of the church holding the latest one and looking about. In my photo album this this is captioned 'Now is there anyone here that I haven't got on my film' and the reason I called it that was because , although he had the rest of the family there, he had somehow missed the OH and me. He and his wife were mortified, and very apologetic. One of those things that seem dreadful at the time but which, after years, are just either not important or funny. In fact as far as I recall I found it funny at the time.He also had an a mazing sense of humour and a gift for telling stories; I can remember evenings in my teens when we would all get together and the time was just full of hysterical laughter. As a a huge music fan;he was also one of the few members of the family 'grown up' with whom the OH and I could share our love of listening to singing.
I am heartbroken that he has gone, while at the same time realising that his life had become so narrow that his passing may have been a blessing, although to be honest I am very far from actually believing that.
As always English funerals take an age to sort so his is not until 12th May. It's going to be very sad and I'm dreading it.



















